I was just thinking upon the matter of forgiveness and forgetting.. I always thought of myself as someone who was very 'in the moment'. I generally find it too tiresome to hold a grudge and to not forgive someone... so as a rule, I don't bother - holding a grudge that is...
Mistakenly, despite knowing the phrase 'Forgive and Forget', I never pondered that the two-that is the forgiveness and the forgetting-are very different emotions. That to forgive does not mean that you have forgotten and to forget does not indicate towards forgiveness and that there is a reason why the phrase is 'Forgive and Forget' and not just the one or the other.
So I realise that I am very easy in my forgiveness but alas I am quite elephant like in my forgetting, in that I don't and can't. As I feel like I don't want to forget and therefore nor can I forget - my view on some aspects of life and relationships becomes a little bit tainted and the more I can't forget, the more deceived I feel. I think I have successfully managed to direct my behaviour towards individuals and not painted everyone with the same brush... you see I'm too young to be a cynic...
However, it must be well acknowledged that 'not forgetting' and remembering are not opposites of one another, not in this medium. To remember is to actively bring forth a memory and make a decision through your conscious self, whereas 'not forgetting' is to have the thought wondering up and down the back staircase of your mind, behaving in certain ways with no forethought or intention. (NB: This is not a dictionary approved definition)
And finally but inevitably we arrive at the title. So for me, from the famous phrase 'Forgive and Forget', I feel like I can forgive you that but I can't forget you that...
Just thoughts running around in my head...Feel free to share yours below and please don't read too much in to this, just felt like sharing so I did. x
